I survived....barely

Jul. 23rd, 2017 10:47 pm
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I survived a work marathon. Ten days of frenzy grant writing. I'm exhausted and not quite sure If the project has any chance. I spend several nights awake. I work during my winter break. I'm very demoralised. I finished last Friday. I honestly fear for my mental health, I'm on edge.

Yesterday, I visited mum and dad. It was nice, my dad is adorable and sweet in the most dysfunctional way ever. I love him. Mum is mum, I love her, but it needs a little more effort from my part.

Today we travel back to Talca, with my MIL. 3 hours of dull conversation inside the car. Gosh, the woman is boring!
I fake being asleep like for 2 hours to avoid talking to her. I discovered something funny while faking to be asleep: hubby gets bored with her too. He will never confess it, but I know my man, and I observe their interaction while he thought I was sleeping.

Here are some jewels of my MIL fascinating conversation:

1. It's raining...(Well, duh, there is water falling from the sky)
2. There is fog....(I haven't realised e wwere surrounded by a dense fog)
3. Winter will last until September 21st. ... (Erm....erm...well, doesn't we live in the south hemisphere?)

Honestly, what I'm supposed to answer to such idiotic conversation?:

Yes, it's raining.
Wow, there is fog.
Winter is here.

I have no patience with idiocy.
I don't need an intellectual conversation but please do try not to talk such inane things.
I guess I'll stay late at my office this week to avoid her.

Just one last whine: Is there a way to call MIL in the English language that doesn't involve the word mother?

She hates me. I dislike her. She is not my mother by any means. I'm not her daughter. She avoids greeting me if there is no one to witness her rudeness.

Spanish is a much better language. "Suegra" is not a sweet word. Suegra is an ugly word, with no music on it. No pretence of anything, it doesn't suggest any bond apart from being the mother of your husband.

Surprise Game Night

Jul. 19th, 2017 12:02 am
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So... instead of spending my evening yesterday writing (as I had intended)... I let myself get dragged out to a board game café by friends (and two acquaintances who will likely become friends, if the good game vibe was any indication). I don't regret it, but I do have to have an exasperated chuckle at myself for being very me.

We played three games, the first of which I didn't remember the name of (a game where you guess answers to trivia questions, and then bet on the answers for points) because it's not one I would care all that much about playing again. The other two were excellent.

Codenames (with Pictures)
Ohhhh this was a fun one, played in teams. You lay out a grid of tiles with random pictures on them (the game art is really strange and discombobulating -- loved it). Then, each team chooses a clue-giver, and the other(s) have to guess. The clue-givers sit together to share a hidden card that shows which tiles are "theirs" (and which ones are neutral--there is also one auto-lose tile that ends the game if it is picked). The clue-givers then have to take turns giving a one-word clue to their teammates that will allow their teammates to pick out as many of "their" tiles as possible. I thought it was fun figuring out the clues, but being the clue-giver was better. I slayed it! I gave four clues, and my teammates picked exactly the tiles I was aiming for each round. I really enjoy games where I can meticulously plan my moves in advance :p

Secret Hitler
The name alone should tell you that this was an... interesting game. lol! Made by the same company that makes Cards Against Humanity, so that should tell you even more. It took us a bit to get the hang of the mechanics for this game, but once we did, we were having a blast. Basically, this is a competitive game with opposing goals. At the beginning, everyone is given two cards showing their party membership (Liberal or Fascist), and their secret role (Liberal, Fascist, or Hitler). It has an element of Werewolf to it, where certain people are aware of others' status, while the rest have to deduce who is who (the secret Hitler [jfc] knows who the fascist/s is/are, everyone else is playing blind). The outward goal is to enact 5 Liberal policies -- the fascist goal is either to enact 6 fascist policies, or to elect the secret Hitler as chancellor. It's... basically a chance to spend a good hour (or longer lol) slinging accusations around, and being hyper-suspicious of everyone. There's more to it, but anyway... it's fun.

And now, time to get back to writing.

Oho, now this is interesting...

Jul. 16th, 2017 09:08 pm
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The messages just keep coming, so I've started replying to them by prefacing them with I may not answer you for a month, more for my own piece of mind than for theirs--I hate leaving people hanging. I'm so fixated on the messages lol. Everyone on Facebook seemed to have forgotten that I existed until about a month or so ago, and now I've had a handful of people that hadn't said a word to me in months (or years) suddenly strike up a conversation. I just don't understand why now, and why all at once! It's not bad, just strange.

So aside from my ongoing discombobulation about these messages piling up, I've had a pretty productive week. I finally got that new FS chapter posted (it turned out to be slightly shorter than a previous chapter, so I didn't beat my record, but I was close), and I worked out most of the rest of the plot for my HP Drizzle fic... I'm now about 1/3 of the way through writing it (though the way I ramble, that may change). I started my SSHG Smut Fest submission as well, but since that one doesn't require beta-reading, and will run a little shorter, I'm going to work on that one afterwards, or at least when the Drizzle fic is almost done.

I did go out this weekend to get started on a scavenger hunt of sorts (you complete it at your own pace) that a group of friends signed up for--it was pretty hot out yesterday, and we got a little lost on one of the clues, so we didn't get far, but it made for a fun afternoon. We'll end up planning another day to continue sometime this month or the next. When we couldn't take the heat anymore, we went to a café to relax and cool off, and then some of us continued on to a restaurant for a late supper. The service at the restaurant was neither good nor bad... it was weird. It was confusing, almost. It wasn't really that busy (at one point, we were basically the only people there other than a few at the bar) but the service seemed very slow, and there were mix-ups. One friend ordered a certain beer and after a long wait, she was offered a completely different (but equivalent one that they weren't selling fast enough) even though they had the one she wanted in stock -- they didn't bother bringing the one she ordered, just the one they wanted her to drink instead, so she would have just felt fussy to say "no, I want what I ordered" because that would mean she'd have to wait even longer, and make them go back and change it. She enjoyed it, but I could tell that she had wanted the one she had originally ordered, and she gave in not to make a fuss. I didn't much like that. It would have been fine if they'd brought both bottles of beer at once and she'd chosen the 'new' one. Then, I ordered an appetizer, because I didn't want a large, heavy entrée, and they brought me... an entrée? Like? What? The thing I ordered didn't even sound remotely like what they brought me? I have no idea why they brought me that? Wtf? Even weirder, that was the only entrée on the menu that actually appealed to me. Again, to not feel like an picky asshole customer, I just accepted it and didn't complain, but it was very weird. At one point, one server said he'd bring us water, and then the other brought it instead... but then the first came over and saw the filled glasses and was like "wtf?". Really bad communication in that restaurant, I guess, and maybe understaffed. The servers also left a couple times without waiting for all of us to give our orders. The thing that caused us all to burst out laughing, though?

At the end of the meal, after the first of the four of us had paid, the card reader suddenly died and the server had to go get another one. What timing. It kind of summed up the whole experience lol.

In other fandom news... The 13th Doctor has been announced, and I am very much looking forward to seeing the next Doctor in action! I'm also looking forward to all the saltiness dying down. I'm seeing a lot of discussion on my Facebook right now about people going "oh IT'S JUST TO SATISFY THESE SJWs" and so on and so forth, and an upsurge of Bill-bashing (I'M NOT HOMOPHOBIC BUT). It's tiring to look at, so I'm not going to bother to dive in and try to talk sense into people essentially throwing temper-tantrums because an alien character that can regenerate into whatever form it likes isn't going to take a human male one for once. Again, as ever, Dudley says it best:

36? BUT LAST YEAR--LAST YEAR, I HAD 37!!!!!

Okay, fine, I will add in my two cents. One person was complaining that Bill's character was 'all about her being a lesbian'. Yes. Because she's a lesbian. And people in real life and on-screen, tend to just assume someone is straight unless told otherwise. Which is why it's important to break that assumption. And the only way to do that is by making characters that very clearly announce these things. Because even though straight is 'default' right now, it won't always be. It is something I believe will change--that one day, announcing even straightness may be normal. The assumptions won't be the same. But for now, it is important that queer characters get to embrace their queerness and announce it--so that people who are bothered by queerness can't just pretend that it's not there and not face their own discomfort.

In a similar vein, those that are screaming SJW about the Doctor regenerating as a female are screaming because the default for them is male. They don't want to watch female main characters--they're bothered by female-led superhero movies as well. To them, female-led movies and shows are 'chick flick' material, a female character automatically dumbing things down. Realistically, the Doctor being played by a female actor shouldn't actually be too different, but any tiny mention of femaleness is going to be magnified by these tantrum-throwers because maleness is 'default' and 'assumed', and anything female is jarring and unneeded and pandering.

Boys are brought up to scorn 'girly' things, and girls are brought up to enjoy 'girly' things (while being told they're lesser) and to like 'normal' stuff ('normal' stuff being anything that is not girly). So... we need to keep destroying that shitty dichotomy because in it, everyone loses.

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